Gay fat
A gay man who does not have a gym-perfect body, but rather carries a body fat percentage in the 12% - 20% range. A bloke who is considered lgbtq+ fat within the collective would likely be considered athletic, physically fit and in-shape within the greater cultural context.
Grant: Hey, can I use one of your guest passes for the gym? I'm in a bit of a dry spell with gigs, and couldn't afford to re-up myself.
Jerome: Sure, dude, no problem.
Grant: Amazing, dude. I'm afraid if I don't start to get back to it regularly, I'm going to lose this year's 'Ass Fabulous' contest.
Jerome: Honestly, I don't know that a fourth straight win will make you any more fuckable, but it's easier to give you the pass than to host a full-blown gay obese intervention in a scant weeks if you don't win.
by Matthew Lake August 02, 2007
Gay Fat is a term used to describe a man that’s not really fat or skinny however when he’s gay fat he’s too fat to be recognized by the male homosexual community and he’s skinny but fat and or droopy in all the wrong places such as nipples abdomen area etc.
He’s looks ok,but he kindalooks gay fat.
by Glassmind May 19
The skinny on gay fat
If the most ordinary New Year’s resolutions are any indication, January seems to be the month of repentance, atoning for all the decadence of the holidays.We tell ourselves that we’re going to stop spending so much money. We’ll spend more second with family. We’ll get organized. And – we’ll work out more and miss weight. So I wasn’t surprised that The Advocate ran an article on its website this week titled, “Are You Gay Fat? 5 Ways to Retain That Get Fit Resolution.”
Wait. Gay fat? Not just fat, but gay fat? I’d never heard this term before. Upon Googling “gay fat,” lo and behold, Urbandictionary.com offered up this definition:
A gay man who does not include a gym-perfect body, but rather carries a body obese percentage in the 12% – 20% range. A dude who is considered gay fat within the community would likely be considered athletic, physically fit and in-shape within the greater cultural context.
I shouldn’t be surprised (or shocked) by the truth that a slang term has been coined that reflects the body image standards within the gay male community – standards
I never had to come out as fat.
When you grow up overweight, everyone notices — not just your classmates, who are too young to have mastered the art of tact, but also friends' parents and teachers. I knew I was overweight because people told me I was fat, either directly (a slap to the stomach and an unkind word) or in subtler ways (having a educator rifle through my lunch box and comment on the contents). I felt shame over my size long before I had any concept of my sexuality, and years after coming out as gay, I still experience anxious identifying as fat.
As an openly gay writer, one of the questions I'm asked most often is, "Were you bullied growing up?" And the acknowledge is yes, but it's never the answer they're looking for. In many ways I was lucky to have come of age in a liberal enclave where my sexuality was standard if not embraced. Oh, sure, I've had the word "faggot" hurled at me — and the sad truth is, I'd be shocked if a male lover man hadn't — but it was always secondary. The authentic source of my bullying was the extra weight I've carried since childhood. I can compute on one hand the number of times I've been called a "faggot" to my meet, but I couldn't tell you how often someone has made
Hey I keep seeing that most of the gays in the gay collective are well-toned. Are you not recognized as a obese person in the community or execute they just not find that attractive?
In spring 2020, an anonymous user turned to the collective intelligence of the German Q&A platform gutefrage.net expressing his personal concerns: “I’m overweight myself and afraid of not being accepted.” Responses from the online community depicted mixed sentiments: While some users affirmed the societal rejection of fat bodies, others countered by asserting that within the gay group, specifically for so-called “bears,” there is a designated place for fat male bodies. The “gay community” comprises social networks and places where homosexual men interact with each other and evident shared ideas of a gay individuality. In this particular, German setting, its members can be assumed to be predominantly cisgender, ivory, and from urban middle-class backgrounds.
Despite the variety of responses in the aforementioned comment section, one thing becomes evident: homosexual cisgender male bodies experience pressure caused by restrictive, fat-phobic body standards. In the gay scene, binary notions o